01 Jan Easing into the New Year!
Several years ago, on New Year’s Eve, my family sat around the table at dinner, each member chatting about what a new year meant to them. To my surprise, most of my family members did not experience the same amount of angst that I do about the 365 days looming before them. It was interesting to see how different personality types view a New Year.
If you are more like me, there is a certain amount of self-imposed pressure to have a plan and goals laid out and to be ready to hit the ground running on January 1st. For some reason, maybe because 2020 is such a cool number and not only the start of a New Year but a new decade, it feels intensified this year!
I have needed to do some self-talk and give myself permission to move gracefully into the New Year without having to have it all figured out! If that’s you, let’s ease into 2020 together.
Grab a coffee or tea and a journal. If you don’t have time now, flag this email and come back to it when you have a few quiet minutes. Simply doing a brain dump on paper can bring so much clarity. Here are 3 questions to ask yourself to help you shape what you would like 2020 to look like for you. The first two are more of a review of 2019, the last one will get you moving into the new year and new decade.
As I move into 2020, what should I leave behind?
For some of your 2019 was a banner year, for others, you are glad to see it go. As we head into 2020, it’s essential to assess what we need to leave behind. That may take some processing with a friend or even a counselor. Were you hurt in 2019? Is there someone you need to forgive? Forgive them. Maybe they aren’t even sorry. Forgive them anyway. Do it for yourself. Clear the path for yourself to move forward in love in 2020. Did you fail in 2019? I did. I did not meet my writing goals for 2019. I need to leave that failure behind. The beauty of a New Year is you get to reassess your goals, see if they are still relevant to you for this coming year, tweak them if you need to, and then let the failure go. Were you disappointed this past year? Disappointment is real. Acknowledge when you have been disappointed instead of burying it. Recognize all the emotions attached to that disappointment – anger, pain, disillusionment, and process them. Take your disappointments to God. He can handle it. Take them to Him, surrender your expectations of how things should have been, and then let them go.
As I move into 2020, what should I take?
Even if 2019 had its share of troubles, most likely, there were some valuable lessons learned. What knowledge or experience did you gain in 2019 that you can carry over to 2020?
Did you get a taste of something you want more of in the New Year? I got to travel last year. I took two very purpose-filled trips, and I want more of that in 2020. I focused on my mental health and felt healthier and stronger than I have in years in 2019, and I want more of that. I need to make sure in the coming year that I don’t fall into old patterns that set me back but that I continue to make my mental health a priority. What habits or behaviors served you well in 2019? Make sure you take them with you.
As I move into 2020, what should I look for?
It is so easy for our calendars to get packed full of busyness. This is an excellent time of year to look at all the activities and commitments we have and make sure they are in alignment with what we value. We can get stuck on repeat if we’re not careful. We may find ourselves involved in things that we were once passionate about or felt compelled to be part of but are not in alignment with who we are as we grow and change, and that’s ok. It may be time to let someone else take your place and spend your time doing things that are in alignment with who you are at the core of your being. What makes your heartbeat? Pursue that. It doesn’t have to be in a work environment. It can be volunteering somewhere or right in your own home. I am looking for more “in-real-life” time this year. I will be looking for opportunities to connect in person more than via text, email, or social media. Time is precious.
As you look towards 2020, my prayer for you is that you would ease into it gracefully without any unnecessary pressure to have it all figured out. We can rest knowing that God directs our steps if we will take time to listen.
Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and he will establish your plans. Proverbs 16:3
Wishing you a wonderful New Year full of joy and blessings!